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October 04, 2008


Rebecca L.

Can't thank you enough for tackling this subject, and the way you did it with Maeve looking in on Tamara's life. Those of us caught in Tamara's situation are so involved in navigating our marital minefield that we don't think of how insane it all looks from the outside, and don't want that truth-mirror held up by friends. For any number of reasons we don't want to look too closely in that mirror, but for some of us it eventually gets through in time. As Tamara put it to Maeve, "It sounds so different when YOU say it."

kudos to you for addressing the subject of DV--not all of it involves punching...

Bruce Bathols (Australia)

You have hit the nail right on the head. Having been a telephone counsellor against for Domestic Violence for several years, the male character is true to form. He has been abusing Tamara for years, if not physically then mentally, to the point where he has total control over her.
She is terrified of him but is also too frigthened to seek professional help.
These sort of persons who perpetrate this type of violence are quite unpredictable, and when confronted with the issue of domestic violence are usually totally defiant of their actions, and will be quite violent against his accusers.
He must be quickly and severely brought to account, and I applaud you in the manner that you are handling such a difficult subject.


Why? It's not just the friends who wonder this, and it's not over when the "story" ends. The "why's" play over and over again when you're the one who waited to leave...
I want Tamara to come out ahead...and be an inspiration to those who are sticking with their abuser because "he isn't that bad, he's never hit me" and "he'll change"


While the current story line is disturbing it is enlightening those of us fortunate to be in positive relationships and hopefully empowering those in bad relationships. Quality storyline- keep it up!


Boy, that question, "Why doesn't ___ just stop?" is so central to the inability of outsiders to understand either party to a dysfunctional relationship! Why doesn't he just stop drinking? Why doesn't she just stop screaming at her children? Why doesn't she just leave him? Why doesn't he just stop abusing her?

Heh. Anybody who smokes needs to stop and think how simple those questions really are. (And good for you for bringing them to the fore -- because the first step is to ask that question of yourself!)


So, is that what you have been busy with lately? All the best!

Waiting to read the story...


this is so awesome! keep up the good work! (and i hope you will later blog more about your experience - writing the story, etc)

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