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October 28, 2008



Emotional abuse is like high blood pressure, a silent, often un-noticed killer. I lived under the auspice of an abusive parent for over 40 years and only recently acknowledged and (hopefully) partially recovered from the abuse. And given the choice I'd have preferred to been hit--at least I'd have had physical evidence to explain to myself why I was so ____ed up for so long. My heart goes out to the emotionally abused in your audience.


Thank you for this amazing story line. I want to share this with all of my friends and family. I don't get the read the strip everyday, my local paper doesn't carry it. But I have read every single strip of this story line. I cried like a baby when he ripped the thread in the afghan. I wish every woman in such a relationship could see this and find the strength to find help and leave. Thank you again.


Hi Sandra

I live in Melbourne, Victoria and your Tamara storyline has my Mum and I hooked. Every morning we both go straight to the comics page to see what is going to happen next. When the storyline picked up again recently, I stuck a post it note on the front of the paper to let my Mum know. It's been an amazing story, thank you.


This is a great storyline, thank you. I was in an emotionally abusive marriage to a controller for more than 10 years, and felt like a trapped animal. The longer I stayed, the lower my self-esteem became.

It also is important to note that staying in these relationships sends a message to your children that emotional abuse is somehow acceptable--it isn't. My children now have a very positive and healthy view of marriage, which I hope will help them as they mature. My teenaged daughter and I have had some great discussions recently about this strip's theme. Keep up the good work!!!


Thanks for all the kind words everyone. Ted! How nice to hear from you, stranger!

Teresa, next week will begin a two-week conclusion to the story.


The first week that this ran in my local paper, my curiosity was aroused. I had to wait another week for the next installment. I love how you are handling this. I didn't know if you were going to stop the storyline but I am waiting each day to see what happens to Tamara and Maeve.

Fortunately, I have not had to deal with these issues in my life but I think you are doing a great job of bringing abuse to the public eye. It is a delicate topic and I like the way you are keeping it real. Please follow it through. I want to know what happens to Tamara. I hope Tamara's husband gets help, I hope she gets out, I hope all women in this situation get the support they need.



I've been following this story with great interest. As someone who went through emotional and physical abuse as a young woman 30 years ago, and who spent time working on a domestic violence hotline, I have to say that you've captured the subject exactly.

I'm very interested to see how this story ends...I'm sure those you've interviewed have given you some possible scenarios-and told you that they aren't all happy endings.

Hopefully someone trying to decide whether to stay or go will see themselves in your story and get help. Finding a support group is the best thing I ever did, but hearing a friend tell me that I didn't need to take it anymore was the first step for me.

Denis, wherever you are-thank you for being the one who helped me get out with your words of support.

Ted Dawson

These are great, Sandra. You're doing a wonderful job with this subject and storyline. This is a tough nut to tackle (am I mixing metaphors?) but an important one.


Wonderful storyline. I was wondering why you chose to go with emotional abuse versus physical abuse, and I wholeheartedly agree that emotional abuse is just as serious and dangerous as physical abuse. Thank you so much for using your comic strip to bring light to an important issue.


On the contrary, I'm sure I'm not the only one, Sandra, :) but it's more that the people in my immediate sphere aren't passionate about comics - even intelligently written, expertly drawn, emotionally gripping ones. Their loss!

I'll wave back!
:) Rosanne


Roseanne...you mean you're only one reading BF in Burlington??? :D I will wave next time I pass by on my way to Toronto. Watch for me.

pRiva, thanks for the kind words all the way from India!


I avidly read your strip in Times of India every day. When I started following what happened to Tamara it brought back a lot of chilling memories of emotionally abusive family life that I went through as a child and young adult. I had to find out what happened to Tamara, so i went on the net and found this blog. I will be a regular here from now on too.
I am sure a lot of women here in this country, who don't even realize that they are being emotionally abused, will start thinking after reading about Tamara...and that's a start. I am glad you've brought this subject across on your strip.


Sandra, I live in Burlington and I love your blog too. Actually, I found your blog by accident a couple of months ago - I was going crazy trying to find someone to talk with about your strip (the best part of the Hamilton Spectator), so I turned to the Internet to find a "Between Friends" community. And lo and behold, there was this delightful blog! It's wonderful - thank you for providing a forum for us fans. :)

Rosanne "striderGirl"


Thanks Jayne. It is very cool for me to hear from my Australian readers on the other side of the world.

Joseph, thanks for the kind words. I don't know why, but it surprises me to know that someone locally is reading my blog. Thanks, again.

Joseph and Vivian

Hi Sandra. This is an amazing storyline and kudos to you for tackling such a delicate issue. My wife and I have been longtime fans and met you during the signing of your book at Coles in Welland.

Having grown up in a domestic abuse situation and my wife having experienced a past bad marriage, we understand what this can do to people and how easily they can be controlled.

We're looking forward to reading more about how Maeve will help her friend Tamara through this situation.

Excellent Work!


It's grabbed our attention here in Melbourne, Australia and it certainly rings true in any country.
Thanks for such a great storyline to get the message home, especially in these tough economic times.

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